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South Bay Queer & Asian

The San Francisco South Bay's Premiere Gay, Lesbian, Transgender & Bisexual Asian Support & Social Organization

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To provide each other with an extended family that will support and embrace our quest for self-discovery, love, and social acceptance.

Our Mission

To provide a fun and safe environment for queer Asians and Pacific Islanders in the South Bay to come out and be comfortable with their sexual identity and ethnicity, as well as be vital and visible to the greater community.

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Upcoming Rap Sessions

Rap Session Info

Jealousy in Gay Dating and Relationships

APR10 2018
  • Time: 7PM-8:30PM
  • Location: Billy DeFrank Center, 938 The Alameda, San Jose
  • Facilitator: Cliff H.

I quoted the following from psychology today web site. "Jealousy is a complex emotion that encompass feelings ranging from fear of abandonment to rage and humiliation". "It's mostly aroused when a person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party". "The threat may be perceived or real"..

Have you dated someone who is the jealous type? Or have you experienced jealous emotions yourself? In either case jealousy can present a great challenge in dating and relationships. Jealousy can become so overpowering that it destroys relationships between two parties that can be lovers or friends.

There is no denying that we all want reassurance of being loved from our romantic partners. Is a little jealousy healthy in a relationship since it shows we "really care about the other party"? If your partner is overly jealous how do you handle the situation? There is no denying that we all want reassurance of being loved from our romantic partners. There is a jealousy test we can go over and rate ourselves at our meeting. It'd be interesting to find our your own score.

(After our rap session, we'll head out to a local dive for dinner together as a group.)

Due to the sensitive topics and subjects we discuss at our rap sessions which often times are only applicable to Queer Asian/Pacific Islanders (APIs), we appreciate the understanding of our non-API friends and allies to join us at all other sbQA events. SBQA raps are a safe and empowering space for Queer APIs

Upcoming Events

[SBQA] Mt. Umunhum hike on Sunday, Feb 11th @ 11am

WHEN: Feb 11, 2018 @ 11am - 3pm PST

Hike Leaders: Marty Grimes and Robert Austria

Hike level: Moderate (2B2)

Join us to this hike to Mount Umunhum, located within the 18,000 acre Sierra Azul Open Space Preserve in Santa Clara County. It is one of the highest peaks in the Santa Cruz mountain range at 3,486 feet. From its spectacular summit, visitors can experience 360-degree views from the Pacific to the Sierra Nevada! This new Open Space destination also offers a rich nature experience that is accessible to visitors of all abilities.

We will be taking a 3.7 mile uphill hike to the summit where we will eat our packed lunches and explore the views and educational displays before heading back down to the trailhead to complete our 7.4 mile loop. In addition to your lunch, bring plenty of water. For those who feel they cannot complete the full 3.7 mile hike up and the hike back down, you have an option to turn around whenever you feel tired and get back to your car and drive to the Summit parking lot and meet the rest of us there for lunch and the views and exhibit display.

Area highlights include:

  • Ceremonial Space
    Honoring the site’s Native American history and the local tribes' return to the mountain, this is a place to reflect on and renew connections with nature.
  • Summit Shelter and Viewpoint
    A shaded area for visitors to rest. A cantilevered deck extends over the hillside, providing an amazing vantage point of the Santa Clara Valley. Inside, interpretive panels highlight the site’s unique cultural, military and natural histories.
  • Radar Tower
    The radar tower was one of a system of 23 similar radar stations in California and one of hundreds across the country that fed radar signals into the Semi-Automatic Ground Environment (SAGE) defense system. This tower was in operation as part of the Almaden Air Force Station from 1957 to 1980.
  • East Summit Viewpoint
    From here, the high point of Mount Umunhum, Mount Diablo and Mount Tamalpais can be seen as well as the valley below.

The entrance gate (located at Hicks Road and Mt.Umunhum Road) closes at sunset in order to ensure visitors have time to safely exit the preserve by closing time. We will meet at the Trailhead for Mt. Umunhum Trail.

Bald Mountain Parking Area

  • Located on Mt. Umunhum Road, approximately 1.7 miles past the intersection of Hicks Road.
  • The Parking Area is on the left
  • Trailhead for Mt. Umunhum Trail and Bald Mountain Trail

Mt. Umunhum Trail Profile

  • Trail Entry Point: The Mt. Umunhum trailhead is located at the Bald Mountain parking area. The Trail can also be accessed via Barlow Road from Woods Trail.
  • Bald Mountain Parking Area Elevation: 2,336 feet.
  • Mount Umunhum Summit Elevation: 3,486 feet.
  • Total Elevation Gain: 1,150 feet of continuous gain at approximately 10% grade.
  • Total Length: 3.7 miles; multi-use - 3.5 miles, hiking only (at Summit) - 0.2 miles.

The gorgeous Mt. Umunhum trail passes through dense mixed chaparral scrub dominated by shrub species including chamise, big berry manzanita, birch leafed mountain mahogany, and poison oak. With elevation gain, the trail passes through Knob cone Pine Woodland, and eventually enters the Coastal Woodlands habitat dominated by coast live oak, foothill pine, California bay, interspersed with Pacific madrone. The majority of the trail – approximately the upper 3.0 miles – is enjoyed under the cool canopy of these trees. Eventually the trail emerges near the top onto steep terrain dominated by cliffs and rocky outcrops including serpentine boulders. Due to the thin soil layer developed on the serpentine bedrock, a low moisture-holding capacity and a unique chemical composition, the serpentine areas support numerous endemic plant species, including rare flowering plants that continue to reveal themselves each spring.

AUDIO TOUR
The Stories of Mount Umunhum Audio Tour app allows you experience a “virtual” guide around the Summit at your own pace. Learn how Mount Umunhum got its name and hear Air Force veterans, Native Americans and others tell their personal stories about life on the mountain. The Stories of Mount Umunhum app is available for free on the App Store and on Google Play.

Download the audio tour app before your visit -- cell service and wireless connectivity is extremely limited in the area.

NO DOGS. Dogs are NOT allowed on the trail, summit, parking lots, or Mt. Umunhum road (includes dogs in cars).

Being gay, lesbian, transgender or bisexual can be a challenging experience for many of us. It becomes even more complicated when you involve mom and dad, family and being Asian. Many questions arise. Who should I date? How do I play it safe when it comes to sex? Where have all the cowboys gone? How do I meet Mr./Ms. Right? How do I tell my family about me? Where do I meet men or women?

So let's talk! At our rap sessions, we meet in a group to talk about various different topics. SBQA presents a variety of interesting topics, including "coming out," relationships, discrimination, and safe-sex. Members can also bring up personal issues to the group and receive feedback and advice. And we do it in a safe, relaxing, friendly environment. Everything is kept confidential, so don't worry!

Our rap sessions are open to all Asian and Pacific Islander gay, lesbian, transgender, bisexual or questioning men and women. We meet every 2nd and 4th Tuesday of the month from 7:00 pm to 8:30 pm at the Billy DeFrank Center in San Jose, CA. Join us for dinner afterwards at a nearby restaurant.