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South Bay Queer & Asian

The San Francisco South Bay's Premiere Gay, Lesbian, Transgender & Bisexual Asian Support & Social Organization

Our Vision

To provide each other with an extended family that will support and embrace our quest for self-discovery, love, and social acceptance.

Our Mission

To provide a fun and safe environment for queer Asians and Pacific Islanders in the South Bay to come out and be comfortable with their sexual identity and ethnicity, as well as be vital and visible to the greater community.

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Upcoming Rap Sessions

Rap Session Info

Should you stay friends with you ex?

OCT09 2018
  • Time: 7PM-8:30PM
  • Location: Billy DeFrank Center, 938 The Alameda, San Jose
  • Facilitator: Cliff H.

Very few gay guys are lucky enough to tie the knots with their first boy friends. Most of us had to kissed a few frogs before we met the true love of our lives. Consequently the question of whether we stay friends with an ex becomes a topic of debate among us. It can be a very polarizing discussion. In our next rap session let's share out opinions on this question. Have you tried and found it difficult to maintain true friendship with your ex? What are the potential downsides to staying as friends? On the other hand can it bring some positive gain for you? Then we can also hear what experts say are the worst reason to stay friends with an ex.

(After our rap session, we'll head out to a local dive for dinner together as a group.)

Due to the sensitive topics and subjects we discuss at our rap sessions which often times are only applicable to Queer Asian/Pacific Islanders (APIs), we appreciate the understanding of our non-API friends and allies to join us at all other sbQA events. SBQA raps are a safe and empowering space for Queer APIs

Upcoming Events

[SBQA] sbQA Holiday Dinner Potluck Party

WHEN: Saturday, December 15, 2018 @ 6:00 PM – 10:00 PM

WHERE: Courtyard Berryessa Clubhouse (address will be provided upon RSVP)

CAPACITY: 100 guests only. We have 30 people signed up so far (as of Black Friday, 11/24/18).

COST: Bring a dish that can feed at least 4 persons.

RSVP: Link

Hello everyone!

I hope you guys had a wonderful Thanksgiving holiday! Thanks to all of you who made it to our annual Thanksgiving dinner party. It seemed everyone enjoyed the food and seeing familiar faces and new ones. We truly appreciate and welcome all the first timers to our event.

With the holiday season fast approaching, please don't forget to RSVP to our sbQA Holiday Dinner Potluck Party

Bring your holiday spirit and your “holiday theme” dishes around the world. We’ll have selfies with your creative holiday theme outfit.

As for your potluck dish, please be creative and add a little more adventure in your choice of holiday dish you would like to bring. We’d love to share in your own family holiday traditions. We know KFC is big in Japan during holidays. Or traditional Peking duck from some of our Asian neighbors. Or, go with the healthier vegetarian version for some of us. It will be an Asian/Californian fusion cuisine. So, we welcome anything tasty. Please bring enough to feed 4 people for each potluck dish.

Sorry, no alcohol allowed so no need to spite your egg nog. Bring your favorite non-alcoholic beverage to share.

Holiday Gift Exchange for fun

After dinner, we will have a gift exchange for those who brought a gift (valued at $25 or more) to participate. No white elephant (recycled, gag) gifts, please!

If you would like to share some talent with an entertainment number, please let Robert A. know via email, text or messenger so we can work out some logistics to make it happen.

Finally, our event will not be successful without great volunteers. Please sign up to volunteer at this event when you RSVP.

See you there!

Being gay, lesbian, transgender or bisexual can be a challenging experience for many of us. It becomes even more complicated when you involve mom and dad, family and being Asian. Many questions arise. Who should I date? How do I play it safe when it comes to sex? Where have all the cowboys gone? How do I meet Mr./Ms. Right? How do I tell my family about me? Where do I meet men or women?

So let's talk! At our rap sessions, we meet in a group to talk about various different topics. SBQA presents a variety of interesting topics, including "coming out," relationships, discrimination, and safe-sex. Members can also bring up personal issues to the group and receive feedback and advice. And we do it in a safe, relaxing, friendly environment. Everything is kept confidential, so don't worry!

Our rap sessions are open to all Asian and Pacific Islander gay, lesbian, transgender, bisexual or questioning men and women. We meet every 2nd and 4th Tuesday of the month from 7:00 pm to 8:30 pm at the Billy DeFrank Center in San Jose, CA. Join us for dinner afterwards at a nearby restaurant.